I was hoping not to have to add this section so let’s start off with how you’re going to approach me. Let’s start with respect. I’m not just going to jump into sleeping with someone because they happen to say that they are kinky. We will get to know each other and develop any kind of connection that lets me know if I can trust you, I may be a sub, but I will still be treated with respect.
Well, I do have private photos and some of which are on the more risky side just because you send a hello does not mean I will automatically grant you access to them again please see above with the creating of some sort of connection I have boundaries they are listed below . Please feel free to read over them prior to messaging me.
I have different standards for both men and women and if you read below, you’ll understand those different standards
This also goes the same for couples and those that fall into the non-binary status trans individuals fall somewhere between the same treatment that I would provide for those that are non-binary or in either the male or female classification, depending on how they present and their temperament that is the best way I can explain this. I am very much not judgmental in negative ways however we all judge people to some degree and we all have our preferences.
what am I interested in: bdsm in general I have experienced a bit but would like to explore more I would like somebody who is an experience Dom and experienced in more than one area within the BDSM community however,
if they happen to be female, I do preference subs probably would be OK with a dominant female, but I don’t know
areas I have explored include impact play, breath play. light bondage, toys , edging and well I’m sure that there are others. I cannot specifically think of them at the moment.
Areas I would like to explore in further detail, include the above as well as role-play, and those aforementioned areas that I’m not certain about or haven’t heard of I would like to experience a variety of kinky play within reason, and all things will be discussed in advance with boundaries clearly stated and respected.
I have tried to break my profile up into relevant sections, men women, non-binary other and couples. couples does come toward the end. I would heavily respect if you could read the individual sections for men, women or other identifying wherever you personally land if you are a couple before reading the couple sections so that way you have an understanding of where I would have expectations individually, as well as as a couple
MEN:
when it comes to male partners I tend to be primarily submissive and prefer they take charge
I like both masculine and effeminate men long hair and clean Shaven face is a turn on but so is a rugged bearded man…when it comes to looks for a man I am significantly less picky but personally is more important
WOMEN:
the opposite is true for females..though I have a preference for women who are in touch with their feminine side and am not typically attracted to masculine women. I like any woman of mine to be more feminine than me because I want to give her the princess attention she deserves. while personality is still a factor the physical appearance does take a bit as well. Meaning I like women who look like women for those that happen to be female by birth, but identify non-binary or other please see that section below because I do somewhat treat that separately to some degree
with women I do tend to take a more dominant role as I very much like pleasing a woman, I very much respect if they know and are clear with their boundaries and limitations and can be vocal enough to tell me what they like and dislike
Non-binary/trans/other
I do like non binary individuals
and have no preference one way or the other with respect to trans people
so if you fall into this category or are a more masculine female it’s not off the table but the personality becomes way more important
that is to say I rely upon the personality of the individual more than what happens to be between the legs. but if we are honest some parts of dating or playing together are made easier when there is physical attraction from the start.
if you are more female presenting and or identifying, I will often times place you more in the feminine category. Likewise, if you are more masculine presenting, you will land more into that area. I have only recently started to like non-binary individuals in a sexual manner as before, my mind couldn’t place them in either category, so it is somewhat new to me and your personality will heavy dictate how we will either get along or not.
with those that are trans again the female male presenting will make a difference. I will try to treat you with those same respects as you deserve such as if you are transitioned into a female I will try to treat you as such, and those that are transitioning towards Mel, the same , but I will also expect that you’ll be Xave being a similar manner to what you are identifying as I cannot guarantee it will work again. This was all based with no experience but a willingness to be open and explore .
Couples:
I like couples, if short term play the dynamics depend on the situation
for longer term relationships I am not a unicorn to be used when needed and then put away. either you want me as a third or not. I do not require play with both partners as I cannot guarantee that I will like both partners in a sexual manner. I do expect that there will be at least a friendly connection between both partners if I am involved with the couple.
I am perfectly content being with either the male or the female individually with both equitably and again depending on dynamics if it is just a more one time or casual situation so long as there is enough of an attraction to both parties or dynamics have been discussed in advance
about me specifically:
I prefer ethical non monogamy as I like both men and women and I am not monogamous nor can I consent to a monogamous relationship as I have desires for both men and women.
I am not easily jealous or territorial but I do put a significant emphasis on honesty
so long as all parties involved can communicate effectively. I’m very good with that. I am not so comfortable with an open relationship where I have no idea who’s doing what with whom but that becomes more of a risk for safe practices.
I am a plus size woman who is not going to be everyone’s cup of tea and that’s ok but as long as you are honest and clear about your intentions we will not have any issues
lastly I am not interested in long distance situations, and or online ….and by that if it’s more than a few hours drive away I am going to simply pass
per what I am seeking ideally a long term friend or friends with benefits situation as I am not interested in a relationship per say….if one eventually develops (ENM only) that is not the end of the world lol
but I am currently wanting more casual, consistent and safe fun
